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50 Shades of Porn: Part 2

2/23/2015

Pornography is generally not openly discussed in homes. If parents are watching pornographic materials-- chances are so are your kids. The material, most likely hidden, is still in the home making it accessible by children. Mobile devices also make it easily attainable and hidden.

Here are some alarming facts you may not know about pornography:
Starts young. Too young. 11 is the average age in children (especially boys) are generally exposed first time internet pornography.

Porn causes divorce. Internet pornography plays a significant role in divorces in today's culture. According to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, “Two-thirds of the the 350 divorce lawyers said the internet played a significant role in divorces in the past year, with excessive interest in online porn contributing to more than half of such cases.”
Porn can damage your mind. The images viewed can have lasting affects and can trigger addictive behavior.
Porn is addicting. Viewing pornographic can lead to addiction. The pleasure center of your brain, which is activated when viewing porn, can over activate dopamine which causes addiction. With overuse of dopamine your body creates a “new normal.” This will leave the addict feeling as though they have to reach new and higher levels of pleasure to keep feeling “normal.” When someone is addict to pornography they must see a progression of shocking images to stimulate themselves.

Parents cannot assume their children do not have access to pornography. Parents need to monitor computer and phone usage, be aware of dangerous apps which allow things to remain hidden on their phone, and research different programs to block pornography on computers and mobile devices. There are a lot of options out there to guard your teens. They are worth it. You could be saving them from divorce, damage to their mind, and addiction.

If you would like more information on the damaging effects of pornography, please reference the following websites:
Ask an expert at: http://www.theporneffect.com/ask-an-expert
Fight the New Drug Organization: http://fightthenewdrug.org/#sthash.NrFOeIbA.dpbs
5 Things '50 Shades of Grey' Teachers You About Sex: READ MORE
Trade in your copy of '50 Shades of Grey' at: http://pullingbacktheshades.com/
Are you addicted to Porn? Find out at: http://xxxchurch.com/

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Red Alert: 50 Shades of Porn (part 1)

2/9/2015

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We live in a society where pornography is easily accessible, viewed as harmless, and sometimes even considered liberating. However, pornography is damaging not just to marriages, families, and individuals, but also to your brain and decision-making processes. A study completed by Dr. David Greenfield, Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the University Of Connecticut School Of Medicine showed that viewing pornography shuts off the part of the brain controlling personal decisions making in relation to morals and values.

This research is being discussed as a new movie, '50 Shades of Grey', is about to be released. There is a lot of hype about '50 Shades of Grey'-- a movie where there are sexually explicit scenes, openness to harmful sexual exploration, and pornography. The fear is that this particular movie, which was first a book selling millions of copies, could potentially open up a new generation to the acceptance of damaging sexual images through pornography and other dangerous sexual practices. The movie centers on a young woman, who is a virgin, and meets a very successful entrepreneur who takes advantage of her sexual inexperience and opens her up to a world of bondage/discipline/sadism/masochism (BDSM), sexual submission, and pornography.

The movie glamorizes and hypes the idea of these new sexual experiences. However, the movie does not discuss the following information:

40 million men who view pornography regularly are less likely to get married, and actually shut off the decision making portion of their brain relating to morals and values while viewing pornography.
Viewing pornography is associated with lower sexual satisfaction in married relationships.
The psychological effects of being beaten for someone's sexual pleasure.
Men and women deserve monogamous marital commitment when engaging in sexual activity. When couples are not committed, there can be emotional damage and hurt involved, especially if children are a result of the relationship.
Sexual submission, bondage, pornography, and BDSM can have damaging effects, not just on the person(s) participating, but the families who are subject to these practices.

The movie would be a lot different if the Hollywood glamor and controversy was taken out of the equation. If this movie portrayed the real ramifications of this behavior, it would look more like a devastating documentary than a twisted love story. Do not allow your children, family, or spouses to see this movie and to perpetuate the notion that this is entertainment. These ideals are damaging to their psyche, as well as to their emotions.

If you would like more information on the damaging effects of pornography, please reference the following websites:
Ask an expert at: http://www.theporneffect.com/ask-an-expert
Fight the New Drug Organization: http://fightthenewdrug.org/#sthash.NrFOeIbA.dpbs
5 Things '50 Shades of Grey' Teachers You About Sex: READ MORE
Trade in your copy of '50 Shades of Grey' at: http://pullingbacktheshades.com/
Are you addicted to Porn? Find out at: http://xxxchurch.com/

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Five Ways to Speak Your Child's Language

2/4/2015

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Have you heard of the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman? This isn't just for married couples. A love language is how a person likes to feel loved by another. Everyone has a love language-- even your teen. No matter how busy, athletic, emotional, artistic, tech savvy, or withdrawn they seem they still have a way they prefer to feel loved. Take a minute to learn about the five different ways to let your child know you love them.

Words of Affirmation. This is telling your child with words they are valued, loved, doing a good job, played a good game, they have an awesome band, etc. It's saying it. And it's saying it often. It's not telling other people about how awesome your children are. Words of Affirmation is about telling your child how amazing they are daily. This can happen in a heartfelt way or just in passing.
Acts of Service. Although when you have a teenager it may feel like your child should be showing YOU love by doing the dishes, the reality is that some teenagers feel love by someone doing something for them. This might be cleaning their room, packing their lunch, or having their favorite drink in the fridge. If your teen feels love by “acts of service” the little things you do for them will not go unnoticed.
Receiving Gifts. This doesn't just mean an XBOX or an iPhone. In fact the gift doesn't have be much money at all, although I'm sure the expensive tech gifts would be greatly appreciated. People who feel love by gift giving appreciate not just money, but value. They value you thinking of them. If this describes your teen, get creative. Keep your ears ready for hints about things they are interested in or enjoy. If they love gifts then they probably like surprises too.
Quality Time. Put the cell phone away. Shut the laptop. Turn off the TV. The teenager who values quality time wants your full attention-- face to face. If you are out at the mall together or having dinner, but are on your phone the entire time, this does nothing for the teen valuing quality time. They need you. All of you. Engage with them in a conversation with eye contact. A little bit can go a long way.
Physical Touch. This isn't everyone. Especially as teens can go through stages where the thought of a hug or kiss from their parent would make them want to gag. You might have grown up in a house where no one showed physical affection to one another, but it doesn't mean your child cannot have physical touch as one of their love languages. Even if it's difficult for you give them a hug or put your arm around them, DO IT! It will speak volumes to their heart.

If you would like to find out more about the Five Love Languages written by Gary Chapman you can visit their website Five Love Languages for Teens. You can take a quiz to find out what your teen's love language is.

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