Modesty--it's more than the hemline being low enough and the neckline being high enough. It's more than steering away from provocative clothing aisle at the mall. It's more than clothes. Although clothing might be there first thing which comes to mind when you hear the word “modesty”-- it really means so much more.
We live a culture where there is Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat. We get to say what we are thinking to everyone--in real time. There is very little filter when it comes to our feelings, thoughts, opinions, or complaints. We like to post them, snap a pic, and share with the world. We are seeing a younger generation become more vocal and visual. However, we are also seeing less and less modesty in behavior. As the fashion trends become more provocative so does the conduct. It's important to discuss with your teens what your family's standard for modesty are in dress AND behavior.
Here are three conversation starters you can do at home to encourage modesty in your teen:
As parents, it is so important to keep the conversation about modesty alive in your home. If you have never had the conversation about behavior this is the perfect time to start. This conversation is for boys and girls. Modesty in young men is important and should be encouraged. Talk about it today! Don't let society shape their standards for behavior. Let it start with YOU and your family's values!
Most parents are concerned about how technology and social media effect their kids. Furthermore, many parents try to implement ways to protect their kids such as: withholding passwords, monitoring mobile devices and computers, restricting use, and so on.
As technology saavy as some parents can be, unfortunately, there are still ways for kids to engage in risky behavior and get around the limitations that parents set.
In a previous post, we warned parents about several apps that could either pose a danger to kids or allow them to engage in risky behaviors.
One family we interviewed had set boundaries with their teen's use of technology, but found that he was still able to use his phone and computer to make poor choices.
Their son was required to turn in his phone to his parents in the evenings. He could only access the internet on the computer when the parents input the password. They monitored his music, photos and messages. These particular parents are fairly knowledgeable about technology and rely on their own mobile devices and computers as their kids do. The problem was in the lack of knowledge of so many new apps that allow kids loopholes around monitoring.
The mother told us, "we would check his phone, but some things were stored in "Lockbox" or had disappeared from SnapChat. We checked what he was listening to on itunes, but found out later that he had his own account. Were in the dark the whole time."
The mother went on to say, "the heartbreaking part is that we took him at his word and then found out that he was, in fact, making poor choices that ended up affecting his life in various ways."
Keeping kids safe and accountable when it comes to technology, can lead to tough decisions, awkward conversations and eye opening revelations, but it sure beats a lifetime of consequences from poor choices.
When it comes to technology and kids... stay aware, involved and informed!!
A Positive Approach to Teen Health (P.A.T.H) is a 501(c)3 organization that reaches seven counties throughout Northwest Indiana. Since 1993, A Positive Approach to Teen Health has been working to empower teens to make healthy choices regarding drugs, sex, alcohol, and violence.