There is a misconception among teen girls that teen boys want to date girls who dress revealing. Especially with the current mini-skirt and crop top trend, it seems everyone is pushing the boundaries with their wardrobe. On the red carpets, music videos, and YouTube Channels you see women dressing revealing and guys drooling over them. This increases the pressure for girls to re-create what they see. After all-- it's trendy, right? Add the pressure to be in a relationship in middle/high school and you have a recipe for misconceptions about what guys want.
Evan Wilson, an Intern at Road to Life Church, musician, and high school student had some interesting perspective to combat the common misconceptions. His faith has shaped his view on women and modesty in our culture.
“I think modesty, or lack there of, reflects how the woman views herself more than anything. If a woman feels that she needs to expose herself in order to be valued then it shows me, as a man, that must be what she values most about herself. It's a red flag.
As a Christian man, I value modesty in a woman because if she dresses immodestly, I think it's a sign of desperation. If a woman is making such a conscious effort to broadcast her availability through dressing, and acting immodestly, then me as a Christian man asks the question "Why is she so available?" I view Immodesty as a sign of desperation, and lack of direction and conviction.
The current trends are just a reflection of our consumer culture. The sad thing is we've come to the point where people's bodies are the product. Sex has become the currency, and everyone wants to be rich. Men and women are both the victims. Young men are taught from an early age women are only for their pleasure, and young women are taught that that's all they're good for. Both perspectives are unhealthy. Both feed into each other, and contribute to the problem of immodesty in our culture.”
Evan's perspective sheds light on the misconceptions about how teenage boys view modesty. NOT ALL teens are looking for immodest teens. NOT ALL men are looking for immodest women. Talk to your girls and explain how society and culture is not ALWAYS the norm. Build your family's value system on how you view modesty in wardrobe and behavior. Don't let society talk to them for you! Beat culture to the punch! Talk today.
You can checkout Evan's music on https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCjqkixgBLzLPVmWZyolg_-w
A Positive Approach to Teen Health (P.A.T.H) is a 501(c)3 organization that reaches seven counties throughout Northwest Indiana. Since 1993, A Positive Approach to Teen Health has been working to empower teens to make healthy choices regarding drugs, sex, alcohol, and violence.