The not so happy holidays

Suicide is a topic many are uncomfortable discussing, especially this time of year. Social norms dictate that we should be happy and full of holiday cheer during the holidays. However, for many, depression and suicide are a real problem during the winter months. The holidays can aggrandize feelings of loneliness and depression. While others are out celebrating and gathering with family members and friends, those who struggle with thoughts of suicide might spend this time reflecting more in depth about their emotions. 

If you know someone or you yourself are struggling with thoughts of suicide here are six practical ways to help:

• Reach out. There are many resources out there for free who are waiting to help you or a loved one. There are suicide prevention lines who offer counseling from licensed professionals who can help direct you on where to go next.

            -- Most schools and colleges offer counseling for free to students.
            -- Churches will generally offer free services and spiritual insight.
            -- YOU are not alone. Even if you simply contact a friend or family you trust.
                Together you can make a plan to stay safe!

• Get "creative" with your time. Sometimes just getting in touch with your creativity can help you get in touch with good memories and keep your mind looking forward to what's new. Paint a picture. Write a song. Learn to knit. Draw in a sketch book. Work on a puzzle.
  

• Steer clear of isolation. When you are struggling with harming thoughts being alone can be one of the worst things for you. Call someone you trust. Go see a movie in public. Join a group at church or school. Go to a holiday party.

• Add a new tradition. One way to overcome bad memories is to make new ones. The holidays is a great time to bring a new tradition into the mix. Instead of using last year's fake tree, go chop down a new one. Instead of cooking a traditional Christmas dinner, cook a Mexican feast with a pinata. Have a “white elephant” gift exchange instead of stressing over buying gifts. Switch it up.
  

• Give. Giving can be the best distraction to negative thoughts. Even if money is tight there are plenty of ways to give without money. Volunteer. Cook a meal for someone. Re-gift a coat to someone in need.
  

• Get Training. Attending a suicide prevention training can make a huge difference in your own life or the life of someone you care about. A Positive Approach to Teen Health is hosting safeTALK: Anyone Can Save a Life. To learn more about this lifesaving training or register CLICK HERE.
  
  

If you or someone you know is struggling and needs immediate help, you call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).